the MORETIVATOR | 有种激励

欧阳文风还没有回马（注意：不是来马，他本来就是马来西亚人）交流，在自由媒体论坛已经看到极不文雅、口不留情且没有逻辑可言的对话。

排除与情绪有关的活说，有种的且看这些网友怎么说：

网友1：插肛人可以来（来马搞讲座），为何璩美风当年不能来？两者差别在那里？ 网友2：同性恋违反常规的插肛性行为，大马是合法的吗？欧阳文风为何鼓吹？ 网友3：欧阳文风的讲题：”同”言无忌～一名男同性恋的告白，下次会不会有一名强奸犯的告白、一名偷窥狂的告白、一名恋童症的告白。。。？ 网友4：一名男同性恋告白什么？插肛之爽吗？

这些回应都有着一个共同点，即他们都有了一个共同的隐藏前提，而且他们都认为这个隐藏前提是百分正确的，因而以为推论也正确，所以最后拼命往自以为是的结论里抛。重点是：为什么有人企图把当事人等同于”插肛的人”与“同性恋等同于违反常规”？这些大前提必然吗？如果不必然，则推论也必不然。这就是讲话只讲结论，没有包含正确前提的典型谬误。

不能只讲结论，一定要包含必然前提，是发言的首要原则。我们都是有脑的人，当然不会允许站不住脚的结论无限量扩大而继续“妖言惑众”。这是最基础的逻辑。即使不懂逻辑，稍微有质疑精神的人都会对这些莫名其妙的前提与结论感到怀疑。如果相关的对话逻辑没有告诉我们A，但是B却莫名其妙的成立了，世人一定冲着结论展开很多疑问。不必然的前提，不可能推论出必然的结论，也不可能莫名其妙的成立了结论。

有鉴于此，为了求证，相关的驳论出来了：“你怎么知道我好肛交？”、“不是同志不能探讨这类课题吗？”、“什么叫做常规？常规哪里来？”，或者比较不留情的则会问：

“你被我x过吗？不然怎知我插肛？” “当政府在探讨同性恋应不应合法化，是不是整个政府都是同志才能探讨？” “违反常规就是不合法，那口交呢？口交合法吗？违反常规不是吗？” “肛交只是同性恋者的事吗？” “男女性行为最合法了，探讨性行为教育是不是鼓吹性泛滥？”

这以上的一系列挑战前提与结论的问题都是有道理的。倘若回应者论证不到其必然性，那就意味着这些推论本来就推不出一个“所以然”来，这样便与诬赖、无理取闹没有分别，也就是逻辑学所说的”不合乎逻辑发言”。

逻辑是说话的圣经。所以当事人必须对课题深入研究、胸有成竹，方能“应付得当”。相同的，对方也应该做好功课。但是有人却因为经不起逻辑这一关，正当论证不到的时候还硬着脸皮，说什么对方有备而来、对手的口才太强等。其实，有备而来有错吗？说口才强不如说逻辑架构上与内容事实上已正确发言；难道不准备、不研究、不思考而乱吠，推论就出来了吗？逻辑人绝不干这种丢脸的事。

就例如当我们说：“我要吃东西”，隐藏的前提是什么？最基本的理由前提就是～“我饿了”。但是还是有很多人以为他的想法是正确的，因而推论了很多自以为是的结论，如：“你可能不饿”、“你装饿”、“你饱了还要吃”等，所以谬误连篇的问题出现了：

1. 你不饿，你为什么来？ 2. 你不饿都可以来，为什么乞丐不能来？两者差别在那里？ 3. 我不喜欢你不饿也来讨吃，这是合理的吗？为什么你鼓吹乞丐文化？ 4. 一个乞丐告白什么？讨吃的快活吗？

重点是：你怎么知道我不饿？乞丐非要等同于“饿而讨吃的人”不行吗？如果不确定，为什么还“以此类推”？这就是自以为是的结论的例子。从以上的逻辑看来～“你不饿”的结论是谁推论出来的？这段逻辑有告诉我们什么吗？所以，“自以为是”的逻辑不能成立，这是自创逻辑，也可以说是特套逻辑。隐藏前提不正确，不代表我们可以把胡乱的猜测变成结论，这有偷天换日之嫌。这种也就是俗说的：搬弄是非人的表现。

看到了吗？同样的逻辑形式，你听到说：“有人来分享同志课题，鼓吹插肛之爽！” 你认为结论正确吗？

你觉得有人说话狗屁不通。曾几何时，我们也这么认为我们是狗屁不通的呢？

重点：不能只讲结论，一定要包含必然前提，是逻辑发言的首要原则。

I am going to share with you an uplifting story about we should not let our flame of hope go out of our life. With hope, we can live in faith, love and peace.

What touches me is that, this is the first story I got from my dad, who is working oversea, via email today. I still remember the last sms I sent to him. It was a message with a deep thought, but hitting on a time 30 years later, it didn’t sound so good for our family, especially when I am the one who post that question. That was the time I know we have been trying very hard to achieve family happiness. With this story he sent to me, I know the answer is near, at least we give it a thought. It’s never too late, really.

How I wish my mom can understand this story too. I really hope she can join us to be part of the candle-of-hope family.

This is the story of Candle of hope. Enjoy! 

I wonder why people nowadays, especially youngster like to abuse the art of silence. Is silence constitutes to an acceptance, or rejection?

Here’s one of my example. My car is broken down and I would like to borrow a car from my brother. I sent him a sms: “Hi bro, need ur help. Can I borrow ur car tomorrow? I really have no choice but 2 seek 4 your help. I will accommodate your time. Really urgent. Can u help pls?”After 20 minutes, I got his reply: “Well, I don’t think it is possible. It is quite inconvenient for me. First of all, I’m not sure what is your arrangement and I never be late for work. Sorry. Unable to help.”

I don’t know what makes him come to that ‘lateness’ excuse. If one is willing to help, sure we can work out a win-win situation. Knowing that it is my arrangement and the lateness that concerned him to extend help, I sent him a follow-up reply immediately: “Hey bro. It’s easy. I can go 2 ur office n collect ur car once u reach ur office. Tell me wat time u finish work n I will come 2 fetch u. I will pay 4 d petrol. Is this ok 4 u?”

Now, this is a perfect arrangement. But I never receive his reply after that. Don’t get me wrong. We never hold grundge on each other. We are brothers!

What makes him silent? And what does his silence means?

If he can reject me at the first place, obviously it’s not hard to reject me the second time. But he doesn’t even have the ‘guts’ to send me a second reply. Just imagine how perfect my plan is. Come on brother, silence does not constitute to an answer. According to the English Law - The golden rule of the law of contract, silence does not constitute to an acceptance. I don’t mind if you don’t help, but if a yes-no seems to be the hardest word to say, I can’t imagine how decisive you are dealing with your daily life. Please don’t abuse the art of silence. Don’t forget, this is what usssually make women brand us as ‘irresponsible’ man.

I sent him a sms after that: “Hi bro, how come I never get ur reply? If silence means a rejection from you, I respect your decision. No worries. It’s ok. Sorry 4 bothering u. Cheers!”

Has anyone watched the latest Transformer movie? Malaysia rated the movie ‘U’ - General viewing for all age. Singapore rated ‘PG’ - Parental guidance suggested. US rated ‘PG13′ - Parents strongly cautioned, may not suitable for children under 13. Regardless of what is the rating liked, what interests me is the middle finger in this movie.

The middle finger appears in the used car scene in which the lead actor and his dad were looking to buy a used car. The owner of the used car shop was greeted by his family member, who was sitting behind, with a middle finger. It was airbrush-censored in Malaysia, whereas Singapore, it was nothing to hide.

The creator of the middle finger must be very proud. I bet he wouldn’t have known this sign now brings a powerful impact to our culture (and movies), and even influence the way people communicate nowadays. See this:

Err… how about this?

See? The creator should deserve a prize or an award for his achievement, right?Actually what comes in my mind is that, since when this sign has gained a standard definition, and why do some countries censored it, whereas others just leave it for ‘parental guidance’? Does the ban help stop promoting the sign? Or does it really mean something?

This gesture is mostly used as a non-verbal communication of saying ‘f**k you’ globally, but its origin is quite speculative. For those who has the similar curiousity liked me, check here to know more. I learn a lot, really. Trust me; this is a good question with a good thought!

Ladies-first policy now has a new extension. In a latest shopping spot in Damansara Mutiara, female single driver has certainly deserved a privilege. To eligible yourself to park at the nearest parking row right in front of the most access entrance, all you need is: to be a female driver.

See this? The moment I took these pictures, I have seen those who took these parking lots are females, of course, but they are in groups, not single driver. After they park their vehicles, you can still see them walking in the most leisure manner, as usual, you can still hear their talkative and laughter from the desperate housewives. In the other hand, it is not surprising that some other drivers are still desperately looking for their parking.

I have been thinking of a solid reason for the above priority. I have asked my female friends why is this privilege. They said because female is the shopping king, they have more spending power, so they should be rewarded. But how come they never think of this seemingly beautiful excuse: their safety. You know when female walking alone, all the way just to look for their car. Dangerous you know?

See, I am no gender discrimination. But just see how people abusing it. What comes in my mind is: why females, yes, females like to ‘Ladies first, please.’ when they fight for their bonuses, whereas come across issues which are not favour to them, they will say ‘You are tough man ok? You should help.’.

I thought female always want equal rights as male? Now you have it, but what’s next for you girls?

Catch these privileges in the ‘most gentlemen’ shopping spot in Malaysia - CineLeisure Damansara, KL.