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Silence constitutes acceptance?

I wonder why people nowadays, especially youngster like to abuse the art of silence. Is silence constitutes to an acceptance, or rejection?

Here’s one of my example. My car is broken down and I would like to borrow a car from my brother. I sent him a sms: “Hi bro, need ur help. Can I borrow ur car tomorrow? I really have no choice but 2 seek 4 your help. I will accommodate your time. Really urgent. Can u help pls?”After 20 minutes, I got his reply: “Well, I don’t think it is possible. It is quite inconvenient for me. First of all, I’m not sure what is your arrangement and I never be late for work. Sorry. Unable to help.”

I don’t know what makes him come to that ‘lateness’ excuse. If one is willing to help, sure we can work out a win-win situation. Knowing that it is my arrangement and the lateness that concerned him to extend help, I sent him a follow-up reply immediately: “Hey bro. It’s easy. I can go 2 ur office n collect ur car once u reach ur office. Tell me wat time u finish work n I will come 2 fetch u. I will pay 4 d petrol. Is this ok 4 u?”

Now, this is a perfect arrangement. But I never receive his reply after that. Don’t get me wrong. We never hold grundge on each other. We are brothers!

What makes him silent? And what does his silence means?

If he can reject me at the first place, obviously it’s not hard to reject me the second time. But he doesn’t even have the ‘guts’ to send me a second reply. Just imagine how perfect my plan is. Come on brother, silence does not constitute to an answer. According to the English Law - The golden rule of the law of contract, silence does not constitute to an acceptance. I don’t mind if you don’t help, but if a yes-no seems to be the hardest word to say, I can’t imagine how decisive you are dealing with your daily life. Please don’t abuse the art of silence. Don’t forget, this is what usssually make women brand us as ‘irresponsible’ man.

I sent him a sms after that: “Hi bro, how come I never get ur reply? If silence means a rejection from you, I respect your decision. No worries. It’s ok. Sorry 4 bothering u. Cheers!”